Sexual roleplay is nothing crazy or new – Rachel in Princess Leia’s red bikini, anyone? It’s undoubtedly something most of us have dabbled in or, at the very least, fantasized about.
But just because you’ve daydreamed about a sexy scenario doesn’t mean you’re ready to dive right in. Not everyone is ready to toss on a schoolgirl uniform and go to town. That’s okay!
If you’re ready to take your sex life to the next level but aren’t sure where to begin, here’s how to ease into roleplay in the bedroom.
What is Sexual Role-play?
Sexual roleplay is a method of heightening excitement in the bedroom by assuming different "roles" and acting out a sexual scenario with your partner. For example, you could be the sexy doctor and your partner the horny patient, or whatever gets you going.
To give you a better idea, the most popular role-play ideas in the last few years include:
- Pretending to be strangers
- Schoolgirl or schoolboy
- Fifty Shades of Grey
Of course, there are no "rules" to what you can or cannot pretend to be when it comes to role-playing, which brings us to the first step in approaching this sexual game.
Start with an Open Conversation
Is your partner interested in trying a role-play? Are they the one that brought it up and you’ve finally come around to the idea? Regardless, any sexual experimentation should always start with an open conversation with your partner.
Discuss the baseline stuff first: what are your or their hesitations, if any? Is there anything you don’t know about role-play?
Once you’re both feeling informed and comfortable, start tossing around ideas. There’s no need for crazy, outside-the-box thinking necessarily! For your first time, just think about scenarios that turn you on.
Was there a scene in a movie that’s always stuck with you? Have you had a secret fantasy that you’ve never shared? Now is the time to be brutally honest, no matter how "weird" you think the scenario is.
Trust us, it’s not weird.
Resort to Google if need be; search some easy role-play ideas to jog your imaginations. Once you’ve come up with a couple ideas, decide on one that you’re both comfortable with and excited about.
Try Dirty Talk
If you’re still not ready to order a French maid costume on Amazon, that’s okay. Ease into a foreign scenario with some in-character dirty talk.
Assume your roles and begin with a "scene" – no need to get all bent out of shape about lines or anything like that, unless you’re both intensely Type A people. Think about how these two characters would meet and just let it flow from there.
Get Some Inspiration
Not entirely sure where to start with your calling couch fantasy? Well, we guarantee there’s a porn for whatever scene you’re imagining.
There is no shame in turning on a sexy flick to get a sense of how the scenario might go, if you need a guideline. (Also, it might just be a super hot thing to watch together.)
When you are ready to bring your role-play to life, costumes really help raise the stakes. The right outfits make the scene ten-times sexier, believe us.
There’s no need to invest in an expense costume if you can’t swing it; we’ve gone to places like Goodwill or Savers to pull sexy outfits together. You can do just about anything with $10 and a creative eye.
Turn Embarrassment Off
This part is hard. In this unusual and new situation, it’s easy to break character and giggle your way right out of the scene, which can definitely kill the mood.
First of all, don’t get down on yourself if you get embarrassed at first! This is new and, well, a little odd. If you need to take a second to reset, don’t be afraid to go into separate rooms for a few minutes before you start again.
But, if possible, try to shut down the part of your brain making you self-conscious. Remember that this is your partner, one of the people you’re likely most comfortable with; they’re not judging you, they’re rearing to have sex with you.
When in doubt, remember how freakin’ hot you look to help channel your confident inner sex god/goddess. It might be a tad weird at first, but your libido and your relationship will be grateful that you dabbled in this fun type of sexual experimentation.
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