When it comes to being a plus size woman, there are often misconceptions about the things one can and cannot do. The reality is though, that really your size does not preclude you from enjoying a healthy sex life.
And while we have previously discussed the different stereotypes associated with being plus size and having sex, this time we are going to share some tips to actually make enjoying sex easier. Because really, who doesn’t want to learn new tips and tricks to make sex better and more enjoyable?
Depending on your size, there may be some limitations, and that is okay. As long as you know what works for you and make sure to pay attention to your body and needs, you can still have a highly fulfilling sex life.
One problem many plus size women have is being comfortable naked, or even finding lingerie that makes you feel sexy leading up to your sexual romp. When it comes to lingerie, hit up online stores that cater to plus size ladies or even the lingerie stores online that offer extended sizes. Here you should be able to find pieces that are perfect for you and make you feel like the sex goddess you are.
When it comes to getting naked and letting it all out there, the most important thing is to not shame yourself. We get enough fat-shaming from the rest of the world, we don’t need it from ourselves. You are beautiful and you need to embrace that. Besides, clearly your partner is into you or sex wouldn’t even be on the table.
Once you have moved pass the image issues, it comes time to address sexual positions. For some bigger women, positions like doggy style will actually be difficult simply because of the pressure it puts on the knees and other joints. The thing is that this can also be a very good position for achieving satisfaction.
Missionary position might seem boring, but we are talking about sex and orgasms, there is nothing boring about that (or at least there shouldn’t be). Missionary is a great position for plus size women. We can still participate in the act, and it feels good for us as well.
If you want to liven up your missionary sex, then you may want to incorporate some toys and even utilize sex furniture, like a wedge. Wedges are a great way to help alleviate some of the frustrations of positioning.
In fact, the joy of the wedge is that even as a plus size woman, you can enjoy sexual positions you haven’t been able to in a while. From modified doggy positions, to cowgirl and more, these wedges offer a sexual freedom that will enrich any couple’s sex life. And if you are hoping to learn more about what these pieces have to offer, you can check out the Liberator wedge guide to really get a better understanding of how these work and what they can do to spice things up in the bedroom.
And as I mentioned, there are also sex toys that can help give a bit more spice to your sexual activities. Whether you choose something simple like a bullet or even a vibrating cock ring for your partner, or go with something a bit fancier like the Womanizer, these toys can add a whole new dimension to your sex life.
While toys and sex furniture may not seem like the answer, they are actually a lot more helpful than one might think. In fact, as a plus size woman, you shouldn’t limit yourself because of your size. Instead, you just need to tailor your sex life to your own needs.
Pay attention to what works for you. If you can handle the doggy style position long enough for both of you to enjoy yourself, then by all means enjoy yourselves. If you think you can handle sex in the cowgirl position, then go for it.
No one should be telling you that you can’t do something because of your size. The reality is that this is your body and you know what will and won’t work for you.
Have fun, bring in toys, try new positions, try some sex furniture. All of these things are here to help you, and make sex better.
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