Are you a person who never gets tired of eating the same thing over and over again? Or do you get bored after a while and start craving for something new? If you relate more to the latter, as most of us, you probably know the feeling of being in a rut. With other things in life, you’ll crave variety and a break from your routine and may even want to try spicing up lovemaking.
The same applies to lovemaking. You may at first be all ago with the newness of it all: the thrill of discovering each others’ bodies, tastes, and personalities. The novelty keeps things hot. But as you relax into the relationship and establish routines, and bills, kids, and other stresses enter the picture, it won’t be long till flames start to fizzle.
Well, don’t just stand there and watch the embers die out. Following are exciting things you can try in bed with your partner to stir those embers!
1. Bring Toys
If you haven’t done it with toys yet, now’s the time to stop missing out. Sex toys can usher a world of orgasmic possibilities to spice up your lovemaking. Just imagine what an auto milker can do!
Whether your aim is clitoral stimulation, vaginal penetration, prostate massage, or penis milking, there’s a toy for it. And with a new toy, sex with the same partner becomes a whole new experience!
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2. Try New Positions
Probably one of the easiest new things you can do. And if you’re looking for tips and ideas, they’re just a google away! Together you can browse online for ideas or refer to the good ol’ Kama Sutra—which by itself can be loads of fun for you both. You can try as many positions as you want and discover sensations you never knew existed!
3. Use Lube
Lube isn’t just for anal play; it can be used for handjobs, vaginal sex, and toy play, too. Dry sex can cause chafing and tearing and may even hurt. Adding lube eases penetration and makes sex feel better and more pleasurable. There are also flavored lubes for oral sex, as well as sensation or warming lubes.
4. Get Out of Bed
Another easy way to get creative and add some excitement to your sex life is by doing it somewhere you’ve never tried before (as long as it’s legal, of course). Sex out of the bedroom has that hot, spontaneous vibe and sense of adventure. It doesn’t even have to be outside the house (esp. with the current safety precautions due to the pandemic), just outside the bedroom.
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As long as you’re confident of your privacy, take your sex session anywhere that suits you—the living room sofa, kitchen counter, shower, bathtub, outside in your car at a secluded drive-in, a public bathroom, or an empty movie theater. You can add new locations to your sex bucket list and move on to doing it in them!
5. Try Anal
Many are hesitant to try anal sex, esp. women. This apprehension is understandable, but anal sex can be enjoyable, too! Some women experience anal orgasms, and others simply love knowing how much pleasure they’re giving their partner if they’re on the receiving end.
Men receivers, on the other hand, whether in a gay or cisgender relationship, enjoy having their prostate massaged—it’s hitting the P-spot after all!
Clearly, anal play isn’t for everybody, but it’s worth a try. Just remember to have, before anything else, your partner’s consent—and plenty of lube.
6. Create a Sexy Playlist
A playlist filled with music that best sets a sexy mood for you and your partner can also help spice things up in the bedroom. Music affects us in powerful ways. So Marvin Gaye and get it on!
7. Masturbate Together
Watching your partner can teach you a thing or two, so pay attention! You may discover how your partner likes to touch him/herself. Try to reproduce that touch with your hands during the next hands-on session and see what happens. Knowing each other’s personal preferences can spice up your sex life.
8. Share Fantasies
Playing out your sexual fantasy is one of the best things you can do in bed. You can do more than just imagining yourself in another story; you can play it! Sexual roleplaying can make lovemaking a new adventure and a chance to explore deep, possibly forbidden kinks like power dynamics and fetishes.
9. Play Games
Playing games in bed with your partner is an excellent way to get closer to one another. You can play Naked Twister, Strip Poker, or with body paints—edible ones at that! Talk about fun and pleasure!
10. Add Food
Consider food play—whipped cream, chocolate sauce, strawberries, eating sushi off each other, body shots… go nuts.
Takeaway
Relationships may fizzle and fail when sex becomes too routine and boring. In short, sex matters; it’s the glue that holds the relationship together. You can do fun and sexy things to get creative and unlock new layers to your sex and love lives. Trying new things in bed can help spice things up and fan the flames anew.
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