When it comes to having an orgasm, for many women it is not as easy as it may seem. In fact, there have been plenty of studies which show that intercourse does not always guarantee an orgasm for ladies.
To potentially experience the “Big O,” some women may need to do a couple of things to make this happen. It is all about figuring out how to explore what works for you, how you can let go enough to have an orgasm, and ultimately how to relax to have a good time. Whether you choose to go it alone or enjoy a fun time with your partner, here are some easy tips for how to have an orgasm.
1. Eliminate Any Expectations
Perhaps one of the most important parts of having a good time is letting go of any expectations. Forget the idea of actually having an orgasm and spend some time with yourself. The goal is to become more comfortable with yourself, so engage in touching and stroking without worrying about getting off. Instead, make this time about getting more familiar with yourself and what feels good. Knowing which touches and strokes feel the best to you will help in the future to hopefully achieve that sometimes elusive orgasm.
2. Avoid Distractions
Being distracted during sex can mean more difficulties when it comes to enjoying the experience. Whatever you have to do to avoid any kinds of distractions will help when it comes to having an orgasm and enjoying time with your partner. If this means that you have to turn off the phone or leave it in another room, then do that. If this means putting on a blindfold or turning out the lights, then do that. No matter what it takes to eliminate distractions and enjoy sex with your partner, do it because not only will it be good for you, but,, it will also be good for your sex life.
3. Explore the Things That Turn You On
Whether you choose to read an erotic novel, watch a sexy movie or even porn, there is nothing wrong with exploring the things that turn you on. Although you do not have to try the things you read or see, just the fantasy of these things can help to increase pleasure and ultimately lead to a more satisfying sexual experience. Even bringing the ideas of these hot scenarios into the bedroom can be enough to inspire a strong orgasmic experience.
4. Take a Bath or Shower
Before engaging in sexual activities, especially after a long day of work or even working out, a shower or bath can be a relaxing way to wash away the stress. Plus, the steam from a hot shower can be a mood setter, while also working to clear away the grime of a long, hard day.
5. Don’t Worry If You Can’t Reach Orgasm
It is important not to worry or panic if you can’t achieve orgasm. It can take at least 20 minutes for some women to reach orgasm and while no two women are the same; this is a good measure of time when it comes to things like being stimulated. There are times when you may hit a plateau, and while you might be turned on and ready to orgasm, it feels as if you can’t quite reach that big moment. There is no reason to freak out over this. You can either stick with what is making you feel good or let it go this time and enjoy the time with your partner for what it is, a chance to connect and be together. There is always next time.
6. You Can Achieve Orgasm Without Your Partner
You do not need to rely on your partner for your orgasm. Many women make the mistake of expecting their partner to give them an orgasm and while they can certainly be a part of making that happen, there should not be an expectation that they will be the one to give it to you. Whether you decide to talk them through what you like or simply make things happen on your own, achieving satisfaction can only really happen if you make it happen.
To make things happen with your partner, make sure you are engaging with yourself as well. This means touching and exploring even while your partner is having their fun. Pleasure should be a mutual experience, and if they know, you are just as into it as they are then you are both more likely to achieve orgasm and experience a satisfactory sexual liaison.
7. Use Toys
Toys can be a great way to achieve orgasm when manual stimulation isn’t cutting it. There are no rules as to when or how often toys can be used, so if it helps you to enjoy yourself, then incorporate those toys and have fun.
There are no such things as right or wrong answers when it comes to sex and orgasms. There are plenty of tips and tricks out there that can help you if you feel like things just aren’t happening the way you want them to. Don’t worry if you can’t always orgasm from sex; there is nothing wrong with you. Instead, explore yourself, let go of the expectations, and simply try to have fun. Eventually, you will will see stars and as sated as your partner, simply from letting go of all the worries and just having a good time.
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