Intimacy in a relationship is important. It helps to strengthen the bond that you both share with each other, while also deepening the overall connection that you have as a couple. And one of the best ways to create the emotional intimacy you want is to engage in pillow talk.
Typically pillow talk is something that happens after sex. Although there are instances of this form of intimacy occurring even before sex takes place. In reality, pillow talk is the intimate conversation that a couple engages in to create an emotional bond. It is usually very relaxed and flirty, and many couples incorporate cuddling, kisses, and caresses to the conversation that enhances the experience.
Pillow talk can be a wonderful way to connect with a partner after sex, even if you are not actually in a relationship. But when you are already a couple, there are actually ways to take the pillow talk to a whole new level. However, if you often feel awkward after sex, you may not know how to engage in this intimate conversation.
If you are looking for help in figuring out what to talk about, remember that it is easy enough to stick to the sex you just had, what you enjoyed, and even what you would want to do again. Perhaps you want to keep things a bit lighter, then this is your chance to be playful and joke with your partner. Maybe you will use this time to confess something (nothing major) to your partner in regards to your sex life or even share a story with your partner.
However, if you need help deciding what to talk about the next time your engaging in some intimate pillow talk, we have some suggestions.
Discuss the Sexual Encounter You Just Engaged In
This is a chance to praise your partner for their technique or something they may have done to make the sex amazing. Beyond being a great way to show appreciation for your partner, this is also a chance to heat things up for another round of fun. Make the discussion intimate and sexy for a spicy reward.
You will both feel good and it will reassure your partner that what they are doing is good for both of you. (This is a great way to boost your partner’s confidence too.)
Talk About Your Relationship
If you are a couple, this is a chance to talk about your relationship. And if you are not yet committed to each other, this is a chance to clarify things and perhaps move things forward. This is a chance to be honest with your partner about what you want.
This is not about putting anyone on the spot, but rather about sharing how you feel without pressure. Take a chance and share your thoughts because perhaps your partner will be feeling the same way and open to making things more official.
Share Your Dreams
Pillow talk is a great chance to talk about your dreams. This is about building intimacy, and that means talking about more whimsical things. Ask your partner what their dreams are or perhaps something fun they are wishing for.
This is your moment to help create a bucket list together or even find out secret desires your partner has that you may not have known about before. And by sharing your dreams with each other, you actually build up the intimacy while also getting to know your partner better.
Keep Things Silly and Light
Whether you make cute jokes or ask silly questions, this is a chance to have some fun with your partner after sharing a truly intimate moment. Take a moment to laugh with your partner. Even asking a philosophical question is a great way to keep it fun and silly, as long as the question is light and not so deep that it requires a heavy discussion and explanations.
Sex may be one of the most intimate activities you can engage in, but if you want to deepen the emotional bond between you and your partner then pillow talk is your best recourse. It is a chance to be sexy, relaxed, and engaged, while actually engaging in a conversation that is honest and emotional. Pillow talk will help build your bond and make your emotional intimacy stronger than ever.