Every year, we try to start fresh when January rolls around. Whether that means starting a new diet, changing our exercise routine, or looking for love, a fresh start can be a good thing, if we know what we are doing.
And one thing that tends to happen as we head into a new year is we decide it is time to actively look for love (when we are single of course). However, does this idea that we have to find love make it harder to actually make a romantic connection? The reality is that it actually depends on how we look at finding love.
Finding a partner is a solid goal, but in order to do this you have to be as realistic as possible, because the reality is that it is not about finding, it is about looking. Your goal should legitimately be to look for a relationship, but don’t expect it to happen or make it about finding someone new.
Looking for love can be tricky, but if you approach it in the right way, you might find yourself seeing results in the new year that you haven’t in the past. Remember that pushing to find love will have you changing your idea of what you want because you are putting pressure on yourself unnecessarily.
Dating Goals Versus Dating Success
When it comes to successful dating, having a goal to find a relationship can be a mixed bag. If you are unmotivated when it comes to your love life, goals can be important, but they can also be an impediment. Your desire to be dating someone or in a relationship can have you overlooking things that would normally be a turn off or even a red flag. And it is important not to ignore these things as they can spell disaster down the road.
You should never make a resolution to find love, but instead make it about being willing to put yourself out there. Perhaps you can make a goal to at least go on one date every week or to try a new dating app. Make a realistic goal or set of goals that can lead you down the path to potential relationship success.
Don’t make it about finding the one, because that puts unneeded pressure on yourself that can be discouraging in the long run. Instead, make it about putting yourself out there. You can look for the one, without settling for someone who doesn’t make you truly happy, because relationships are not resolutions or goals.
Finding a New Relationship
When it comes to finding a new relationship, make sure you are in a good place emotionally because otherwise things won’t work out in the long run. And remember to be confident, because confidence is key to a healthy relationship.
Think about what you need from a partner, as well as what makes you happy. Are you happy even though you are single? If the answer is yes, then you actually are in a good place to actively look for a relationship. If the answer is no, then you may need to reevaluate what it is that you really want because personal happiness is important when it comes to finding love.
Think about what you want out of a relationship because it will make a difference when it comes to actually finding someone new. It can be a good idea to create a list of qualities that you want in a new love, as well as the things that make a relationship work.
And remember not to put too much pressure on finding the perfect person, because perfect doesn’t exist. Instead, think about what you need and want, and what will make you feel happy and content. Remember that happiness comes from within, and having someone new in your life should just enhance that sense of happiness.
Dating is hard, and when you are single, it can be even harder to find a new love. But if you approach dating in a new way, you may end up finding exactly what you need. Just remember that you also need to have the confidence and happiness within yourself to make love happen, because without those two things relationships can be destined to fail.