When it comes to acts of intimacy, copulation is at the top of the list (for many reasons). And while their are plenty of acts that are also intimate and sensual in nature, perhaps one of the most talked about is the blow job.
For some reason, blow jobs get a lot of attention. However, even with all the attention they get, there are people who either don’t like them, don’t want to be on the giving end of them, or simply don’t know what they are doing. And while we can’t fix the first two, we can certainly try and help with the last one.
First off, you have to remember that porn copulation and real life copulation are the same thing. Simply put, they aren’t. Yes, there is copulation involved (clearly), but it’s unlikely that your man is a porn star whose job it is to be able to ejaculate forever and a day.
Think about it, porn is an exaggeration of reality, and that means you shouldn’t be comparing your copulation life to what you see on screen.
Another thing you need to remember is that blow jobs don’t require swallowing (which is another common misconception or myth). Although, there are some who point out the benefits of semen, particularly in terms of mental health, but that’s neither here nor there.
If you have weird visions in your head of geysers going off in your mouth or any other fears, you may be less worried about things if you consider that when he ejaculates it’s more likely to be like biting into juicy fruit like a tomato. Yes, it is wet and syrupy. No, it is not a firehose taking your head off and drowning you.
Going down on your man is about both trust and letting go. He trusts you not to hurt him (hello teeth!) and you are letting go of your inhibitions. This means that there are some things you may want to do in order for both of you to enjoy the experience.
Blow Job Tips
Look him in the eyes. Eye contact is one of the copulationiest things during an intimate act and looking him in the eyes while you’re giving him a blowjob is something that will be amazing for both of you. Not only do you get to see how you are effecting him, but he gets to see you committing to the act.
Concentrate on the head. The head of the penis is where most of the nerve endings are. This means if you concentrate on that area, you are bound to give him an amazing experience. The head and frenulum (the underside of the head which connects to the shaft of the penis) are also the most sensitive (obviously), and focusing on this area is critical to an amazing blow job.
Use your hands. Your hands should be involved in the action as well. While your mouth is focused on the head, your hands should be involved with the shaft and balls. This will add to the intensity and pleasure he feels.
And speaking of the balls in your hands, make sure you give them plenty of attention too. Cup them, tickle them, make them feel loved! They don’t want to be left out in the cold.
Wrapping things up. If you really aren’t a fan of swallowing, then you need to make sure he is aware and lets you know when he is close. Let him take charge from there. And if you have no problem with having him ejaculate on you, then let him finish that way. Rather than having to deal with swallowing or anything like that, you can go the copulationy route and let him ejaculate over your chest (all while still looking him in the eyes).
And remember this is all about enjoying yourselves, so make sure you have fun. Experiment with what works for you and your partner. Maybe he likes a softer touch or perhaps a firmer hand. Whatever it is, make sure you are paying attention and giving him what he needs. You’ll find that you benefit from this playing too.
Image Credit: Pixabay