When it comes to online dating, you may be struggling to find someone. Are you getting messages that lead to nowhere, or even getting messages from people you have nothing in common with and can’t see yourself ever connecting with? Then you may want to take a look at your online profile.
Often the problem stems from the look and feel of your profile. Whether the problem is the pictures you have included or even the about me section just isn’t reeling in the right people, there are plenty of reasons why your dating profile might not be working for you.
In order to help you fix up your dating profile and make it work for you, we have compiled a list of tips and tricks to spice up your profile and improve the way potential daters see when they are searching through the many options that seem to be out there looking for love.
Change Your Profile Picture
One of the big problems that many dating profiles have is pictures that are less than flattering or the quality is bad. Having a profile picture that is grainy, features bad lighting or any number of other issues that make you not look your best is a surefire way to turn off a potential dater. While you may not want the snap judgment, the truth is we all pass judgment based on that initial impression and if you are not putting your best picture forward, then you could be missing out on some great people.
Some of the best photo options are the ones that are taken by a friend when you are simply hanging out together. If you are feeling fierce, fabulous, and hot, then have your friend snap a few pictures of you so that you have some great material to work with. It is also important to remember that good lighting is important, but you don’t want anything too harsh either.
Reign in Your Word Count
If you are the kind of person who loves to talk about yourself, or perhaps has a lot to say, you may be scaring people away with your profile’s word count. While you don’t want a profile that is too short and basically doesn’t tell anyone anything, you also don’t want something that is so long that there is nothing left to talk about later on. Too much will scare people off and too little won’t draw them in. So, remember to go with something in the middle and leave them wanting to know more.
Make Your “About Me” Section Captivating, Not Boring
Although your profile picture will help bring people in, your “about me” section is where you get the quality potential daters. You want an “about me” section that is compelling and does not make the person reading your profile think of every other person out there. The goal is to stand out and make people want to learn more about you.
You should definitely make sure your personality comes through, even if that means adding a bit of humor. If you make your profile as unique as you are, then you’re more likely to find someone who not only wants to know more about you but who you want to know more about as well.
Don’t Mention You Ex
Past relationships may shape who we are, but that does not mean that a potential partner wants to hear about your ex, especially when they are just getting to know you. Honestly, this is your profile to find someone new, the last thing you want is to give a bad impression or make it seem like you still hung up on your ex. Let it go and just show the world the person you are and the kind of person you would want to date.
Make Your Profile Upbeat
Much like you don’t want to talk about your ex, the last thing you want to do is sound like you are applying for a job. Make sure that your dating profile is fun, funky, and interesting. This is not a job application, nor is it supposed to be depressing. Remember to think about how you are presenting yourself, and how you want potential dates to see you.
Dating is hard and finding someone to date via apps and the internet can be very impersonal. Your dating profile is your chance to show people who you are and why they should reach out to you and make a connection.
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