Raising a family is similar to a full-time job, so if you and your partner think you are ready, think again before you start planning romantic dinner ideas to celebrate. In fact, there are probably some questions you need to answer before you decide to add to your family.
1. Are both of you emotionally ready?
Emotions stem from thoughts, and if your thoughts are out of control, so too are your emotions. You need to be able to think clearly about whether or not you can take on the responsibility that comes with starting a family.
For women especially, it is a monumental transition to become a mother. It may be the greatest moment of your life for you and your partner. If it isn’t, you may be susceptible to postpartum depression. No one wants to have to go through a bout of the blues, and neither should your partner or your child. This will exaggerate your depression and you will feel overwhelmed to the point of wondering if you made the right decision. This is why it is important to make sure you are taking good care of your mental health by taking some time to just breathe, relax, and feel the emotions as they come.
2. Are both of you physically ready?
Those who are recovering from an injury should take this time to rest and not worry about having kids. There is a lot that needs to be taken into account physically. Some couples may be able to have kids easily, while some may struggle for years only to end up disappointed.
Have you gone to your gynecologist recently? If not, you should schedule an appointment as soon as you are able to. You should also take this time to eat a healthier diet and to get plenty of physical activity daily. This also will benefit your child as they learn healthy habits.
3. Are both of you financially ready?
Many couples start out with either a little bit less money than they would like, or have everything they need, but are deep in debt. Raising a family is no easy task financially. There are many ways to handle this obstacle, so be on the lookout for any type of program, guidebook, podcast, etc. on how to save money and live the life of your dreams.
4. Do you both live in a reasonable environment?
Sure, you may like your home, but is it in good condition? What about the environment? The last thing parents want to have to worry about is whether or not the house will fall apart or their child will grow up to fear places, people, and things. This can be avoided if you check your local news channel for updates on living circumstances, and work on the house prior to having a child.
5. Do you have enough space?
Like with living in a reasonable environment, children need space to run around and explore new things. If the space is too small or too big, your child may be prone to more tantrums. A larger home means more time rushing from room to room to check on your child, more time spent on cleaning and worrying about the bills. A smaller space may mean that you and your partner feel overcrowded and this may risk the two of you fighting. Space is needed as your child grows, so are their experiences. However, if you read my article on minimalism, you may find some inspiration on how to make do with less.
6. Do you have enough time?
Time with loved ones is so important. Children need to be nurtured, so if your schedule is packed full with important meetings, trips, other events, etc. then you may miss some opportunities to connect with your loved ones.
7. Why are you having kids?
This question really gets you thinking. For many people, raising a family may mean having a purpose to exist. Or, raising a family could be a reason to finally be loved by someone. Whatever your reason is for having kids, make sure to be really honest with yourself as to what is causing you to want kids.
If you and your partner do decide that you are indeed ready to start a family, then go ahead and plan those romantic dinner ideas for the two of you to celebrate what you have accomplished so far towards your goal.
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